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Dating a Red guy - a summary

Fiery Reds are the most testosterone-fuelled type of all personas. Reds are highly competitive, quite domineering, opinionated, and strive for perfection, which makes them high achievers, and more often than not, takes them to the top of the pack.

Reds love debating, sometimes just for the sake of it, and bring competition into everything they do, from work to sport to dating… They like the thrill of winning an argument, so when someone is tempted to debate with them, it is unlikely you will walk away the winner.

You will quite easily recognize the Red for their confrontational manner of communication, strong views and opinions on everything and anything, as well as lack of praise or compliments. They can quite easily lose their temper, but at the same time, their charm, wittiness and confidence is very attractive.

On a date, they are likely to be quite attentive, polite, and the date is very likely to be planned well in advance. Reds are likely to be very caring partners but tend to demonstrate this in a practical manner.

Reds are not afraid to buy expensive gifts and will do so if the relationship is inclined that way. But don’t confuse these gestures with romance. They are more likely to be of a pragmatic nature.

Reds tend to take a while to let go, relax and unwind. And even then, it is more than likely that they are really still contemplating their next exploit in their head, so don’t take it personally if you find yourself in their company just to realize that while they might be with you physically, their mind is elsewhere.

Reds might be very outspoken and outgoing, but they are not the type to wear their heart on their sleeve, so don’t expect them to be able to share their emotions easily. Because of their tendency to be emotionally ‘constipated’, they don’t react well to someone else’s generous display of emotions. In other words, don’t be revealing any emotionally sensitive details of your life or proclaim your love for them too early.

Reds will always appear immaculately dressed, whether the occasion is work or casual, or even in sports apparel. They may be lean in their build as they burn so much energy with their fast-pace lifestyle.

Needless to say, with all their drive and ambition, these confident and outspoken guys, more often than not, excel in pretty much every area of their life and are perceived as quite a catch.

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How Purple men manage their money

Purples are quite frugal and savvy with their money and are not prone to impulse buying or splurging without a good reason. However, they will not hesitate to invest their life savings into something that has a bigger cause. They are highly unlikely to splurge on a 5-star holiday but will have no problem investing a large sum of money in, let’s say, a dog shelter. They are regular contributors to charities and if they truly believe in the great purpose of something, money will not be an issue – they will either invest their own or will find someone to convince to contribute to the cause.

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How Purple men are with friends

Once Purples find people they click with, these friendships tend to last a lifetime. However, it has to be an arrangement full of mutual consideration and free of any criticism, as this is one thing that can push the Purple away with little chance of rekindling the relationship.

Purples rarely have friends amongst co-workers; these type of acquaintances are typically never promoted into a ‘friend’ status. A Purple needs almost a spiritual connection with someone to truly let them close. They love the idea of being close to a like-minded individual but don’t necessarily seek opportunities to socialise. They are fiercely loyal friends and will not think twice about dashing to help a friend when one is in need.

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How Purple men relate to time

Purples like to think of themselves as people with good time-managing skills and in their defence, they do put their best foot forward whenever possible out of sheer consideration for other people’s time. They will never set out to make arrangements in such a way where they neglectfully run late on purpose with the view of ‘they can wait, I have more important things to do’.

However, all of their best intentions hold no value when they go through the phase where they have their head deeply buried in a new project, cause or venture. On those days, things like arriving on time or paying bills on time seem irrelevant or simply don’t even cross their mind as they are too emerged in things that by far outrank on their scale of priorities.

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How Purple men make decisions

A Purple’s decision making skills are highly sophisticated as they tap into a variety of inner resources to come up with the best suitable solution for the problem. They combine their intuitive nature with their creative ability to see outside of conventional norms and use their analytical capabilities throughout the process to thoroughly evaluate all the outcomes.

Having said that, Purples are not quick to commit to decisions unless they are convinced they are making a fully educated choice. Once they feel they have all the resources and information to make a commitment, they will take the plunge without hesitation and will follow through on ideas with conviction, willpower and the planning necessary to see any complex project through to the end. In the dating context, a Purple man will have no problem taking the lead but will just as effortlessly walk away from an early relationship if it is not proving to live up to his expectations.

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Typical careers that you'd find Purple men in

Program directors, project directors, HR directors, consultants, mid to senior level management, analysts, facilitators, coaches, mentors, software developers, IT, engineering, community projects, social/youth workers, organisers in charities, local schools or community projects, poets, writers and actors

Note: This is not to label anyone and neither is it an exhaustive list. It is presented to give you a flavour of how Purples can apply themselves. This also does not mean a person from another persona can’t be in the careers mentioned.

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Irritating habits of Purple men

To be clear, items listed here may be irritating to some people and quite OK for others, depending who they are.

Purples carry the risk of being misunderstood more than any other personality. They combine a variety of traits, which are bordering on contradictory and tend to go through phases where their behaviour changes dramatically. This can easily frustrate people around them, especially those personalities who are very direct and outspoken.

Purples have a strong need for things to be fair and will tirelessly fight for justice, sometimes resorting to almost inadequate and erratic behaviour. Where most people would step back and let go, Purples will stubbornly attempt to fix the issue. However, their attempts to do that rarely have a constructive nature and can often resemble a runaway train.

Many people struggle to understand a Purple’s state of mind when they are immersed deeply in thought or an important project. Besides neglecting routine matters and day-to-day maintenance, they can easily come across as aloof, indifferent, distant and cold.

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What Purple men find irritating

Purples are well-mannered and polite who can find a way of clicking with most people, however, they will not even bother putting effort into establishing a connection with someone who is loud, brash, provocative and ignorant. So if you want to impress this guy on a first date, keep your composure and entice him with your intellect rather than bold or irreverent behaviour.

If you try to impress this guy with your intellectual skills, make sure you actually know what you are talking about. A pet hate of Purples is people who talk authoritatively about things they actually don’t know much about. Purples are very intuitive and attentive people that quickly read between the lines. They find it offensive when someone tries to pull wool over their eyes or plays mind games.

Purples get unsettled and annoyed by unclear communication. When they talk or explain something, they rarely lose train of thought and are capable of expressing the point comprehensively and concisely. Anyone who goes in roundabout ways, taking forever to make a point or not connecting the dots makes them impatient and even cross. Having said that, Purples can be very vague and evasive themselves when they don’t want to disclose certain information or commit to a decision, so while they would be demanding clarity from others, they reserve the privilege of double standards for their exclusive use. Anyone else trying to go for two sets of rules will firmly be pulled on that.

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How Purple men deal with emotions

Purples are certainly not the type of people that wear their heart on their sleeve. Being extremely private, they don’t showcase their emotions and are prone to bottling up feelings. They are very sensitive to criticism and conflict and take things very personally. They might be calm and collected on the outside, but on the inside, they are often very self-conscious and full of self-doubt.

It is not uncommon for Purples to bottle up feelings until the moment comes when they can take no more. When they explode, they can be very ratty, mean, tactless, and say hurtful things, which they end up sorely regretting afterwards.

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How Purple men deal with confrontation

A Red persona is quite comfortable with confronting people who they see as obstructive. With their quick-witted intellect, they can throw you just enough rope to hang yourself with. And before you can find an apt retort, you’d be running for cover from their next clever volley. They prefer to resolve conflicts in a constructive and swift manner, without letting the emotions to get in the way. For you to be using or showing emotion in a confrontation with a Red will only strengthen their stance.

Note that they don’t necessarily aim to be mean, they simply believe that they are right, and quite often they are. Best to clearly state what you think the problem is and ask them for the solution. Most often, their solutions will be fair and right. You may not like it but going with their way will most likely not harm you.

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